Today, once again, I had a heated argument with my wife about something. The said-heard took the form of a fight. Seeing this, the 23-year-old son told me that you have so many shortcomings that your relationship with anyone cannot last long. We are bound by our relationship with you not with pleasure but out of compulsion. Had I been in the bus, when would all three of us have left you. By all three he meant his sister. I also have a daughter. This disturbed me so much today that I could not concentrate on my work. But I could not stop the process of two talks with the readers that has been going on for years. Due to this thinking, I looked deep inside myself and I saw many shortcomings in myself. Looking at these shortcomings, I felt that maybe other men also have it. For any relationship to last for a long time, it is necessary that we know what are the qualities in us that compel our partner to spend life with us. By doing my own self-analysis, I found that I lack the following qualities-

Honesty
Honesty is the observance of duty, dignity and truth with full devotion. Honesty is the best policy. For a relationship to last for a long time, it is necessary that there should be honesty in mutual relations. Being honest is about helping people keep their trust in us. One cannot quickly trust liars. Honesty gives us everything in life as expected. And one lie can ruin any relationship.

candor
To maintain any relationship, it is necessary that the relationship should be done from the heart and not as a burden. If the partner does not like something or is unable to understand it, then instead of thinking that if I said something, the other will feel bad, then solve that problem by clearly saying your point. The obvious may seem bad to someone for a moment. But the listener also knows that it is better to solve the problem by speaking clearly than to grumble in the mind.

Independent
A self-supporting person does not need the help of others. He gets success through his efforts. He believes in himself. He does not live by fate. He does not consider any task impossible. Rather, he goes ahead and faces every difficulty and finds his destination. He never stops trying.

Daring
The life of courage is the greatest life. It is fearless and fearless. A fearless person does not care about what others think of him. He does not walk by looking at the neighbourhood. He doesn’t think about the consequences of his move. Living in fear is the biggest defeat for him. And I don’t want to see this defeat ever win. The destination is achieved only by facing difficulties.

optimistic
Losing in life is a sign of cowardly people. Hope is a good sign. One needs to be determined and optimistic to accomplish any task. An optimist creates his own destiny. Success is achieved only by working hard for good results by not giving up on the situation that prevails today.

family relationships
In order to maintain any relationship, it is necessary that as we maintain the relationship with our family, in the same way we should also maintain the relationship with the family of our partner. Once I used to live with a joint family but today listening to my son I realized that I failed to maintain my relationships. That’s why I have had a lot of trouble adjusting to my partner’s family as well. Perhaps because of this, the relationship with my in-laws has not been good till date.

Must have knowledge of cooking
In today’s time, it is necessary for men to be proficient in culinary arts. There are two reasons for this, one is that if your wife is employed, she expects that her husband will help her in the kitchen after reaching home from the office. Second reason: If your wife is a housewife, then sometimes she thinks that someone else can take care of the kitchen in her place so that she can live a few moments comfortably. This is a big problem with me. I am completely ignorant of cooking. My wife has some diseases that make it difficult for her to work in the kitchen but still she has to because she knows that if she doesn’t cook, everyone will have to starve.

In view of these shortcomings, I would like to ask my readers—whether it is a woman or a man—that you should develop these qualities in yourself so that your relationship with your partner lasts for a long time.

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